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Pam Ray, Lobbyist

COLUMN = GOVERNMENT RELATIONS

Pam has more than three decades of in-depth experience in policy and politics, with expertise in congressional budget/appropriations and federal grant programs.

Her select policy experience includes housing and community development, housing finance, transit/transportation, taxes, and trade.

With a focus on bridging the knowledge gap between elected officials and their constituents, Pam has achieved success in her own government relations business for 16 years and for elected officials in the US Senate, US Senate Committee on Banking, Housing & Urban Affairs (1989-95), and the NYS Senate Federal Affairs Office (1986-1989).

For more information, visit www.pamrayllc.com.

They who give have all things. They who withhold have nothing.”

– Hindu Proverb

I can’t go back to yesterday—because I was a different person then.”

– Lewis Carroll

Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly. Hold fast to dreams, for when dreams go, life is a barren field frozen with snow.”

– Langston Hughes

Instead of loving your enemies, treat your friends a little better.”

– Edgar W. Howe

Outside of a dog, a book is man’s best friend. Inside of a dog it’s too dark to read.”

– Groucho Marx

I was taught at a very young age that you can do whatever you want to, but you have to make it happen — not just talk about it.”

– Kathleen Jo Ryan

Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which obstacles vanish.”

– John Quincy Adams

Success is the necessary misfortune of life, but it is only to the very unfortunate that it comes early.”

– Anthony Trollope

Inspiration and genius — one and the same.”

– Victor Hugo

Opportunity is missed by most people because it is dressed in overalls and looks like work.”

– Thomas Edison

A man who strikes first admits that his ideas have given out.”

– Chinese Proverb

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.”

– Mark Twain

If you think you are too small to make a difference, try going to sleep with a mosquito in your room.”

– A wisdomism

‎No one is useless in this world who lightens the burden of another.”

– Charles Dickens

A lot of people have ideas, but few decide to do something about them now. Not next week. But today.”

– Nolan Bushnell, founder, Atari

To find what you seek in the road of life, leave no stone unturned.”

– Edward Bulwer Lytton

If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.”

– Thomas Edison

Our deepest wishes are whispers of our authentic selves. We must learn to respect them. We must learn to listen.”

– Sarah Ban Breathnach

When we speak we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed. But when we are silent, we are still afraid. So it is better to speak.”

– Audre Lorde

I don’t do very well without fear. There needs to be a part of me saying, ‘That’s going to fail,’ so I can prove myself wrong.”

– Harry Potter's Daniel Radcliffe

If you wish success in life, make perseverance your bosom friend, experience your wise counselor, caution your elder brother, and hope your guardian genius.”

– Joseph Addison

We must be willing to let go of the life we have planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us.”

– Joseph Campbell

Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.”

– Dalai Lama

If you were independently wealthy and never had to work a day in your life, would you still choose to spend your time attempting to become a successful entrepreneur?”

– Steven Schussler

No man will make a great leader who wants to do it all himself, or to get all the credit for doing it”

– Andrew Carnegie

My task is really not to change myself but to become familiar with who I am.”

– Maureen Cook

I don’t know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.”

– Bill Cosby

If my mind can conceive it, and my heart can believe it, I know I can achieve it.”

– Jesse Jackson

There are risks and costs to a program of action. But they are far less than the long-range risks and costs of comfortable inaction.”

– JFK

When I was younger I thought success was being a star, driving nice cars, having groupies. But today I think the most important thing is to live your life with integrity, be an honest and compassionate person, and contribute in some way.”

– Ellen DeGeneres

Speaking more than one language is no longer just an asset in today’s job market; it is a requirement.”

– Tom Adams, CEO, Rosetta Stone

You often meet your fate on the road you take to avoid it.”

– Goldie Hawn

Friendship is the only cement that will hold the world together.”

– Woodrow Wilson

Do not be afraid of mistakes, providing you do not make the same one twice.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt

With ordinary talents and extraordinary perseverance, all things are attainable.”

– Sir Thomas Fowell Buxton

Normal day, let me be aware of the treasure you are. 
Let me not pass you by in quest of some rare and perfect tomorrow.”

– Mary Jean Irion

The good ideas are all hammered out in agony by individuals, not spewed out by groups.”

– Charles Brower, Advertising Hall of Fame

In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.

– Robert Frost

Do not say, ‘why were the former days better than these,’ for it is not from wisdom that you ask this.”

– Ecclesiastes, 7:10

Ambition is the germ from which all growth of nobleness proceeds.”

– Thomas Dunn

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”

– Mary Oliver

A truly forgiving person is someone who experiences all the anger merited by injustice and still acts with fairness and compassion.”

– Martha Beck

We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as impossible situations.”

– Charles R. Swindoll

You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead, pursue the things you love doing.”

– Maya Angelou

Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do.
Where there is love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong.”

– Ella Fitzgerald

The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

– Carl Rogers

That which does not kill us makes us stronger.”

– Friedrich Nietzsche

The important thing is not being afraid to take a chance. The greatest failure is to not try.”

– Debbi Fields, Mrs. Fields Cookies

I will pay more for the ability to deal with people than any other ability under the sun.”

– John D. Rockefeller

We never know how high we are
 till we are called to rise;
 And then, if we are true to plan,
 Our statures touch the skies.”

– Emily Dickinson

Look at everything as though you were
seeing it either for the first or last time.
Then your time on earth will be filled with glory.”

– Betty Smith

A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do.”

– Bob Dylan

When you are asked if you can do a job, tell ‘em, ‘Certainly I can!’ Then get busy and find out how to do it.”

– Theodore Roosevelt

A diamond is a lump of coal that stuck with it.”

– Norwegian proverb

You only live once. But if you do it right, once is enough.”

– Mae West

Hope sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible.”

– Helen Keller

Entrepreneurs need to search purposefully for the sources of innovation that indicate opportunities for success.”

– Peter F. Drucker

Once you find something you love to do, be the best at doing it.”

– Debbi Fields, Mrs. Fields Cookies

If you would create something,
 you must be something.”

– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Don’t wait for someone else to lead you to your right life; that privilege—and responsibility—is yours alone.”

– Martha Beck

If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise.”

– Robert Fritz

Education is an admirable thing to have, but it is well to remember that nothing worth knowing can be taught.”

– Oscar Wilde

Running that first shop taught me business is not financial science; it’s about trading.”

– Anita Roddick, founder, The Body Shop

In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.”

– Albert Einstein

Try not to become a man of success but rather try to become a man of value.”

– Albert Einstein

The music is all around us. All you have to do is listen.”

– August Rush

No one is useless in this world who lightens the burden of another.”

– Charles Dickens

No matter how difficult and painful it may be, nothing sounds as good to the soul as the truth.”

– Martha Beck, from "Leaving the Saints"

Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, ‘What’s in it for me?’”

– Brian Tracy

Change is a math formula. Change happens when the cost of the status quo is greater than the risk of change.”

– Alan Webber, author, "Rules of Thumb"

The mind is everything. What you think, you become.”

– Buddha

Don’t judge each day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.”

– Robert Louis Stevenson

Letting go of expectations is a ticket to peace. It allows us to ride over every crisis—small or large—like a beach ball on water.”

– Martha Beck

It is to no purpose to turn away from the real nature of the affair because the honor of its elements excites repugnance.

– Carl von Clausewitz, On War

Don’t follow your dreams. Chase them.”

– Richard Dumb

My job is my hobby. I come to work to play.”

– Uli Becker, president, Reebok International

Don’t think. Thinking is the enemy of creativity.”

– Ray Bradbury

Great minds discuss ideas. Average minds discuss events. Small minds discuss people.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt

Spend the afternoon. You can’t take it with you.”

– Annie Dillard

If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. 
Now put foundations under them.”

– Henry David Thoreau

Education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire.”

– William Butler Yeats

If your success is not on your own terms, if it looks good to the world but does not feel good in your heart, it is not success at all.”

– Anna Quindlen

He who wants to tear down a house must be prepared to rebuild it.”

– African Proverb

Entrepreneurs are willing to roll the dice with their money or reputation on the line in support of an idea or enterprise.”

– Victor Kiam

It is only when the mind is free from the old that it meets everything anew, and in that there is joy.”

– J. Kristnhamurti, The First and Last Freedom

I have spent a good part of my life convincing people that a blank sheet of paper is the greatest opportunity in the world, and not frightening at all.”

– Marty Skler, executive vp, Walt Disney Imagineering

Challenge is a dragon with a gift in its mouth. Tame the dragon and the gift is yours.”

– Noela Evans

If you do work that you love, and the work fulfills you, the rest will come.”

– Oprah Winfrey

You may ask me for anything you like except time.”

– Napoleon

You have enemies? Good. That means you’ve stood up for something, sometime in your life.”

– Winston Churchill

Try not to become a man of success but rather to become a man of value.”

– Albert Einstein

Part of your destiny is to live in the zone of maximum satisfaction.”

– Martha Beck

Treat the attainment of happiness in the same way an entrepreneur would approach building a business — with a vision, plan, goals, and a systematic approach.”

– Ted Leonsis

Always be on the lookout for the presence of wonder.”

– E.B. White

We are not meant to resolve all contradictions, but to live with them and rise above them.”

– William Blake

Find somebody to be successful for. Raise their hopes. Think of their needs.”

– Barack Obama

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.”

– Leonardo da Vinci

Why am I whispering when I have something to say?”

– Eve Ensler

It is only with the heart that one can see rightly,
what is essential is invisible to the eye.”

– Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

The gem cannot be polished without friction; nor man perfected without trials.”

– Chinese proverb