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Cari Shane Parven, Writer

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Based in the Washington, DC, area, Cari Shane Parven, a former television and radio reporter, writes for The Washington Post, Cooking Light, The Washington Examiner, Fromer’s Budget Travel, MYBusiness Magazine, Swimmer, Maryland-Life, Home & Design and more. She is also a contributing essayist in the new anthology, “Knowing Pains: Women on Love, Sex, and Work in Our 40s.”

Her dream as a child was to be like Jane Goodall sitting in the forest among the chimps, or Margaret Mead observing the natives in Samoa. As a mother of three and wife to one, she can do neither, so instead she blends into the culture around her and writes about what she sees. Her observations can be found in her blogs, “Inside the Beltway and Under the Radar” and “Keepin’ It Real,” where she writes about mental health issues for Gannet’s WUSA-TV. Parven is a frequent contributor to The Huffington Post and the “Friendship Examiner” for examiner.com.

Before her return to print journalism five years ago, Parven was in front of the camera working as a television reporter and weekend anchor at the NBC affiliate in Hartford, Connecticut. Prior to that, she was a features reporter for the ABC affiliate in the Roanoke/Lynchburg, Virginia, market, a news writer for Philadelphia’s Fox station, and a weekend anchor at the NBC affiliate in Lancaster, Pennsylvania.

Parven began her broadcast career in radio in Poughkeepsie, New York, and worked for many years as a radio anchor and reporter in Hartford and New Haven, Connecticut. Her print career began at The Poughkeepsie Journal in New York.

In the 90s, Parven ran a successful media-tour company representing a variety of well-known national clients, including Hunts, General Foods, Accutane, and TJ Maxx. Parven not only created the media campaigns for her clients, placing their products on national and local news programs, but also acted as spokesperson for several of her national media campaigns.

A graduate of Vassar College and a Manhattan native, Parven currently lives in Potomac, Maryland. She is writing her first novel, “A Winter’s Spring.”

Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, ‘What’s in it for me?’”

– Brian Tracy

Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.”

– Eckhart Tolle

As each woman realizes her power, she transforms the world.”

– Patrice Wynne, WomanSpirit Sourcebook

When we speak we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed. But when we are silent, we are still afraid. So it is better to speak.”

– Audre Lorde

In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.”

– Albert Einstein

If it isn’t good, let it die. If it doesn’t die, make it good.”

– Ajahn Chah

We need to learn to set our course by the stars, not by the lights of every passing ship.”

– General Omar Bradley

The world I believed in, back in my most innocent, uninformed, childish mind—is real.”

– Martha Beck

Don’t sit down and wait for the opportunities to come. Get up and make them!”

– Madam C.J. Walker

Happy are those who dream dreams and are ready to pay the price to make them come true.”

– Leon Joseph Suenens

Destiny is not a thing to be waited for, it is a thing to be achieved.”

– William Jennings Bryan

The mind is everything. What you think, you become.”

– Buddha

If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise.”

– Robert Fritz

If you were independently wealthy and never had to work a day in your life, would you still choose to spend your time attempting to become a successful entrepreneur?”

– Steven Schussler

“Here’s to the crazy ones. The misfits. The rebels. The troublemakers. The round pegs in the square holes. The ones who see things differently.”

– Steve Jobs, Apple, Inc.

A truly forgiving person is someone who experiences all the anger merited by injustice and still acts with fairness and compassion.”

– Martha Beck

You’ve got to be willing to crash and burn. If you’re afraid of failing, you won’t get very far.”

– Steve Jobs

What is the point of having free will if one cannot occasionally spit in the eye of destiny?”

– Jim Butcher, White Night

Do you believe it is important to give back some portion of your wealth to support charitable causes?”

– Steven Schussler

At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.”

– Lao Tzu

A man is a success if he gets up in the morning and goes to bed at night and in between does what he wants to do.”

– Bob Dylan

To find what you seek in the road of life, leave no stone unturned.”

– Edward Bulwer Lytton

As your desire is, so is your will. As your will is, so is your deed. As your deed is, so is your destiny.”

– Brihadaranyaka Upanishad

A diamond is a lump of coal that stuck with it.”

– Norwegian proverb

It is only when the mind is free from the old that it meets everything anew, and in that there is joy.”

– J. Kristnhamurti, The First and Last Freedom

You take your life in your own hands, and what happens?
 A terrible thing: no one to blame.”

– Erica Jong

Only those who will risk going too far can possibly find out how far one can go.”

– T.S. Eliot

By your stumbling the world is perfected.”

– Sri Aurobindo

Of course there is no formula for success except perhaps an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.”

– Arthur Rubinstein

No longer talk at all about the kind of man a good man ought to be, but be such.”

– Marcus Aurelius Antoninus

If people like you they’ll listen to you; if they trust you, they’ll do business with you.”

– Zig Ziglar

Don’t think. Thinking is the enemy of creativity.”

– Ray Bradbury

Remember that it’s okay to ask for help when you’re stumped, because sometimes you really can’t be expected to handle everything alone.”

– Martha Beck

That which grows fast withers as rapidly; that which grows slowly endures.”

– J.G. Holland, novelist

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do.”

– Mark Twain

Passion makes perfect.”

– Eugene Biro

A person who learns to juggle six balls will be more skilled than the person who never tries to juggle more than three.”

– Marilyn vos Savant

Treat the attainment of happiness in the same way an entrepreneur would approach building a business — with a vision, plan, goals, and a systematic approach.”

– Ted Leonsis

You only live once. But if you do it right, once is enough.”

– Mae West

‎The biggest flaw in our existing theory of capitalism lies in its misrepresentation of human nature.”

– Muhammad Yunus

The young man knows the rules, but the old man knows the exceptions.”

– Oliver Wendell Holmes Jr., U.S. Supreme Court justice

Running that first shop taught me business is not financial science; it’s about trading.”

– Anita Roddick, founder, The Body Shop

The fixity of a habit is generally in direct proportion to its absurdity.”

– Marcel Proust

Some things are destined to be—it just takes us a couple of tries
to get there.”

– J.R. Ward, Lover Mine

It is not the strongest of the species that survives, nor the most intelligent, but the one most responsive to change.”

– Charles Darwin

I’ve come to confirm that one’s title, even that of president, says little about how well one’s life has been led. No matter how much you’ve done, or how successful you’ve been, there’s always more to do, to learn, and to achieve.”

– Barack Obama

Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid.”

– Basil King

Education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire.”

– William Butler Yeats

Outside of a dog, a book is man’s best friend. Inside of a dog it’s too dark to read.”

– Groucho Marx

Do not be afraid of mistakes, providing you do not make the same one twice.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt