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Cari Shane Parven, Writer

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Based in the Washington, DC, area, Cari Shane Parven, a former television and radio reporter, writes for The Washington Post, Cooking Light, The Washington Examiner, Fromer’s Budget Travel, MYBusiness Magazine, Swimmer, Maryland-Life, Home & Design and more. She is also a contributing essayist in the new anthology, “Knowing Pains: Women on Love, Sex, and Work in Our 40s.”

Her dream as a child was to be like Jane Goodall sitting in the forest among the chimps, or Margaret Mead observing the natives in Samoa. As a mother of three and wife to one, she can do neither, so instead she blends into the culture around her and writes about what she sees. Her observations can be found in her blogs, “Inside the Beltway and Under the Radar” and “Keepin’ It Real,” where she writes about mental health issues for Gannet’s WUSA-TV. Parven is a frequent contributor to The Huffington Post and the “Friendship Examiner” for examiner.com.

Before her return to print journalism five years ago, Parven was in front of the camera working as a television reporter and weekend anchor at the NBC affiliate in Hartford, Connecticut. Prior to that, she was a features reporter for the ABC affiliate in the Roanoke/Lynchburg, Virginia, market, a news writer for Philadelphia’s Fox station, and a weekend anchor at the NBC affiliate in Lancaster, Pennsylvania.

Parven began her broadcast career in radio in Poughkeepsie, New York, and worked for many years as a radio anchor and reporter in Hartford and New Haven, Connecticut. Her print career began at The Poughkeepsie Journal in New York.

In the 90s, Parven ran a successful media-tour company representing a variety of well-known national clients, including Hunts, General Foods, Accutane, and TJ Maxx. Parven not only created the media campaigns for her clients, placing their products on national and local news programs, but also acted as spokesperson for several of her national media campaigns.

A graduate of Vassar College and a Manhattan native, Parven currently lives in Potomac, Maryland. She is writing her first novel, “A Winter’s Spring.”

In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity.”

– Albert Einstein

At the center of your being you have the answer; you know who you are and you know what you want.”

– Lao Tzu

Why am I whispering when I have something to say?”

– Eve Ensler

The important thing is not being afraid to take a chance. The greatest failure is to not try.”

– Debbi Fields, Mrs. Fields Cookies

The aim of life is to live, and to live means to be aware, joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware.”

– Henry Miller

There is a crack in everything, that’s how the light gets in.”

– Leonard Cohen

Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.”

– Leonardo da Vinci

Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.”

– Seneca

As your desire is, so is your will. As your will is, so is your deed. As your deed is, so is your destiny.”

– Brihadaranyaka Upanishad

The journey is the reward.”

– Greg Norman

If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost; that is where they should be. 
Now put foundations under them.”

– Henry David Thoreau

Change is a math formula. Change happens when the cost of the status quo is greater than the risk of change.”

– Alan Webber, author, "Rules of Thumb"

Nothing in the world can take the place of persistence.”

– President Calvin Coolidge

As each woman realizes her power, she transforms the world.”

– Patrice Wynne, WomanSpirit Sourcebook

Friendship is the only cement that will hold the world together.”

– Woodrow Wilson

Hold fast to dreams, for if dreams die, life is a broken-winged bird that cannot fly. Hold fast to dreams, for when dreams go, life is a barren field frozen with snow.”

– Langston Hughes

You often meet your fate on the road you take to avoid it.”

– Goldie Hawn

This is the age when magical technologies make more and more radically fun ideas plausible, even easy. You’re only limited by your creativity.”

– Martha Beck

Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, ‘What’s in it for me?’”

– Brian Tracy

I have spent a good part of my life convincing people that a blank sheet of paper is the greatest opportunity in the world, and not frightening at all.”

– Marty Skler, executive vp, Walt Disney Imagineering

I’ve come to confirm that one’s title, even that of president, says little about how well one’s life has been led. No matter how much you’ve done, or how successful you’ve been, there’s always more to do, to learn, and to achieve.”

– Barack Obama

A man who strikes first admits that his ideas have given out.”

– Chinese Proverb

We make a living by what we get; we make a life by what we give.”

– Winston Churchill

Nothing is a mistake. There’s no win and no fail. There’s only make.”

– Corita Kent

Never cut what you can untie.”

– Joseph Joubert

Education is an admirable thing to have, but it is well to remember that nothing worth knowing can be taught.”

– Oscar Wilde

The man who acquires the ability to take full possession of his own mind may take possession of anything else to which he is justly entitled.”

– Andrew Carnegie

The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new lands, but in seeing with new eyes.”

– Marcel Proust

Who cares if my glass is half empty or half full; I still have something to drink.”

– Optimism rules

Once you find something you love to do, be the best at doing it.”

– Debbi Fields, Mrs. Fields Cookies

I don’t do very well without fear. There needs to be a part of me saying, ‘That’s going to fail,’ so I can prove myself wrong.”

– Harry Potter's Daniel Radcliffe

‎Excellence is to do a common thing in an uncommon way.”

– Booker T. Washington

The follow-your-gut mentality of the entrepreneur has the potential to take you anywhere you want to go or run you right out of business.”

– Bill Rancic, "The Apprentice"

You only live once. But if you do it right, once is enough.”

– Mae West

The gem cannot be polished without friction; nor man perfected without trials.”

– Chinese proverb

He who wants to tear down a house must be prepared to rebuild it.”

– African Proverb

If your success is not on your own terms, if it looks good to the world but does not feel good in your heart, it is not success at all.”

– Anna Quindlen

Success is the necessary misfortune of life, but it is only to the very unfortunate that it comes early.”

– Anthony Trollope

Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”

– Mary Oliver

It is only with the heart that one can see rightly,
 what is essential is invisible to the eye.”

– Antoine de Saint-Exupéry

Never never never never give up.”

– Winston Churchill

Everyone is a mirror image of yourself—your own thinking coming back at you.”

– Byron Katie

A diamond is a lump of coal that stuck with it.”

– Norwegian proverb

But all the while I was alone, the past was close behind, I seen a lot of women, but she never escaped my mind, and I just grew, tangled up in blue.”

– Bob Dylan

Spend the afternoon. You can’t take it with you.”

– Annie Dillard

My job is my hobby. I come to work to play.”

– Uli Becker, president, Reebok International

Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow know what you truly want to become.”

– Steve Jobs

To follow, without halt, one aim: There’s the secret of success.”

– Anna Pavlova

If you wish success in life, make perseverance your bosom friend, experience your wise counselor, caution your elder brother, and hope your guardian genius.”

– Joseph Addison

Outside of a dog, a book is man’s best friend. Inside of a dog it’s too dark to read.”

– Groucho Marx