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Cari Shane Parven, Writer

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Based in the Washington, DC, area, Cari Shane Parven, a former television and radio reporter, writes for The Washington Post, Cooking Light, The Washington Examiner, Fromer’s Budget Travel, MYBusiness Magazine, Swimmer, Maryland-Life, Home & Design and more. She is also a contributing essayist in the new anthology, “Knowing Pains: Women on Love, Sex, and Work in Our 40s.”

Her dream as a child was to be like Jane Goodall sitting in the forest among the chimps, or Margaret Mead observing the natives in Samoa. As a mother of three and wife to one, she can do neither, so instead she blends into the culture around her and writes about what she sees. Her observations can be found in her blogs, “Inside the Beltway and Under the Radar” and “Keepin’ It Real,” where she writes about mental health issues for Gannet’s WUSA-TV. Parven is a frequent contributor to The Huffington Post and the “Friendship Examiner” for examiner.com.

Before her return to print journalism five years ago, Parven was in front of the camera working as a television reporter and weekend anchor at the NBC affiliate in Hartford, Connecticut. Prior to that, she was a features reporter for the ABC affiliate in the Roanoke/Lynchburg, Virginia, market, a news writer for Philadelphia’s Fox station, and a weekend anchor at the NBC affiliate in Lancaster, Pennsylvania.

Parven began her broadcast career in radio in Poughkeepsie, New York, and worked for many years as a radio anchor and reporter in Hartford and New Haven, Connecticut. Her print career began at The Poughkeepsie Journal in New York.

In the 90s, Parven ran a successful media-tour company representing a variety of well-known national clients, including Hunts, General Foods, Accutane, and TJ Maxx. Parven not only created the media campaigns for her clients, placing their products on national and local news programs, but also acted as spokesperson for several of her national media campaigns.

A graduate of Vassar College and a Manhattan native, Parven currently lives in Potomac, Maryland. She is writing her first novel, “A Winter’s Spring.”

No man will make a great leader who wants to do it all himself, or to get all the credit for doing it”

– Andrew Carnegie

In three words I can sum up everything I’ve learned about life: it goes on.

– Robert Frost

I find out what the world needs, then I proceed to invent.”

– Thomas Edison

Permanence, perseverance and persistence in spite of all obstacles distinguishes the strong soul from the weak.”

– Thomas Carlyle

There are risks and costs to a program of action. But they are far less than the long-range risks and costs of comfortable inaction.”

– JFK

Find somebody to be successful for. Raise their hopes. Think of their needs.”

– Barack Obama

The only dream worth having is to live while you’re alive and die only when you’re dead.”

– Arundhati Roy

The person who makes a success of living is the one who see his goal steadily and aims for it unswervingly. That is dedication.”

– Cecil B. DeMille

Everyone is a mirror image of yourself—your own thinking coming back at you.”

– Byron Katie

A people who mean to be their Governors must arm themselves with the power which knowledge gives.”

– James Madison

The quality of your life is directly related to the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably live with.”

– Tony Robbins

The important thing is not being afraid to take a chance. The greatest failure is to not try.”

– Debbi Fields, Mrs. Fields Cookies

With ordinary talents and extraordinary perseverance, all things are attainable.”

– Sir Thomas Fowell Buxton

I will pay more for the ability to deal with people than any other ability under the sun.”

– John D. Rockefeller

I may not be able to change what takes place, but I can always choose to change my thinking.”

– Michelle Sedas

‎The biggest flaw in our existing theory of capitalism lies in its misrepresentation of human nature.”

– Muhammad Yunus

Education is the ability to listen to almost anything without losing your temper or your self-confidence.”

– Robert Frost

We need to learn to set our course by the stars, not by the lights of every passing ship.”

– General Omar Bradley

When we speak we are afraid our words will not be heard or welcomed. But when we are silent, we are still afraid. So it is better to speak.”

– Audre Lorde

The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.”

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.”

– Thomas Edison

Patience and perseverance have a magical effect before which obstacles vanish.”

– John Quincy Adams

If you would create something,
 you must be something.”

– Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Ripeness is all.”

– William Shakespeare

Some things are destined to be—it just takes us a couple of tries
to get there.”

– J.R. Ward, Lover Mine

Do you have the desire to create something new; the strength of conviction to believe your creation will be successful, and the reservoir of energy necessary to thrust it into the marketplace?”

– Steven Schussler

Education is an admirable thing to have, but it is well to remember that nothing worth knowing can be taught.”

– Oscar Wilde

When you are asked if you can do a job, tell ‘em, ‘Certainly I can!’ Then get busy and find out how to do it.”

– Theodore Roosevelt

If it isn’t good, let it die. If it doesn’t die, make it good.”

– Ajahn Chah

Do not be afraid of mistakes, providing you do not make the same one twice.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt

Friendship is the only cement that will hold the world together.”

– Woodrow Wilson

As each woman realizes her power, she transforms the world.”

– Patrice Wynne, WomanSpirit Sourcebook

Destiny is a name often given in retrospect to choices that had dramatic consequences.”

– J.K. Rowling

Just don’t give up trying to do what you really want to do.
 Where there is love and inspiration, I don’t think you can go wrong.”

– Ella Fitzgerald

Look at everything as though you were
seeing it either for the first or last time.
Then your time on earth will be filled with glory.”

– Betty Smith

The good ideas are all hammered out in agony by individuals, not spewed out by groups.”

– Charles Brower, Advertising Hall of Fame

Tolerance and patience should not be read as signs of weakness. They are signs of strength.”

– The Dalai Lama

Speaking more than one language is no longer just an asset in today’s job market; it is a requirement.”

– Tom Adams, CEO, Rosetta Stone

They who give have all things. They who withhold have nothing.”

– Hindu Proverb

Letting go of expectations is a ticket to peace. It allows us to ride over every crisis—small or large—like a beach ball on water.”

– Martha Beck

Instead of loving your enemies, treat your friends a little better.”

– Edgar W. Howe

Do one thing every day that scares you.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt

If you wish success in life, make perseverance your bosom friend, experience your wise counselor, caution your elder brother, and hope your guardian genius.”

– Joseph Addison

When I was younger I thought success was being a star, driving nice cars, having groupies. But today I think the most important thing is to live your life with integrity.

– Ellen DeGeneres

If your success is not on your own terms, if it looks good to the world but does not feel good in your heart, it is not success at all.”

– Anna Quindlen

Many people prefer to play it safe when it comes to business matters. Are you willing to take risks in the pursuit of entrepreneurial success?”

– Steven Schussler

No longer talk at all about the kind of man a good man ought to be, but be such.”

– Marcus Aurelius Antoninus

You must learn to be still in the midst of activity 
and to be vibrantly alive in repose.”

– Indira Ghandi

When I dare to be powerful—to use my strength in the service of my vision, then it becomes less and less important whether I am afraid.”

– Audre Lorde

Hope sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible.”

– Helen Keller