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Cari Shane Parven, Writer

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Based in the Washington, DC, area, Cari Shane Parven, a former television and radio reporter, writes for The Washington Post, Cooking Light, The Washington Examiner, Fromer’s Budget Travel, MYBusiness Magazine, Swimmer, Maryland-Life, Home & Design and more. She is also a contributing essayist in the new anthology, “Knowing Pains: Women on Love, Sex, and Work in Our 40s.”

Her dream as a child was to be like Jane Goodall sitting in the forest among the chimps, or Margaret Mead observing the natives in Samoa. As a mother of three and wife to one, she can do neither, so instead she blends into the culture around her and writes about what she sees. Her observations can be found in her blogs, “Inside the Beltway and Under the Radar” and “Keepin’ It Real,” where she writes about mental health issues for Gannet’s WUSA-TV. Parven is a frequent contributor to The Huffington Post and the “Friendship Examiner” for examiner.com.

Before her return to print journalism five years ago, Parven was in front of the camera working as a television reporter and weekend anchor at the NBC affiliate in Hartford, Connecticut. Prior to that, she was a features reporter for the ABC affiliate in the Roanoke/Lynchburg, Virginia, market, a news writer for Philadelphia’s Fox station, and a weekend anchor at the NBC affiliate in Lancaster, Pennsylvania.

Parven began her broadcast career in radio in Poughkeepsie, New York, and worked for many years as a radio anchor and reporter in Hartford and New Haven, Connecticut. Her print career began at The Poughkeepsie Journal in New York.

In the 90s, Parven ran a successful media-tour company representing a variety of well-known national clients, including Hunts, General Foods, Accutane, and TJ Maxx. Parven not only created the media campaigns for her clients, placing their products on national and local news programs, but also acted as spokesperson for several of her national media campaigns.

A graduate of Vassar College and a Manhattan native, Parven currently lives in Potomac, Maryland. She is writing her first novel, “A Winter’s Spring.”

Many people prefer to play it safe when it comes to business matters. Are you willing to take risks in the pursuit of entrepreneurial success?”

– Steven Schussler

A man without a smiling face
 should not open a shop.”

– Chinese Proverb

To follow, without halt, one aim: There’s the secret of success.”

– Anna Pavlova

The best reason to start an organization is to create a product or service to make the world a better place.”

– Guy Kawasaki

You often meet your fate on the road you take to avoid it.”

– Goldie Hawn

Whosoever knows how to fight well is not angry. Whosoever knows how to conquer enemies does not fight them.”

– Lao Tzu, Tao Te Ching

The less effort, the faster and more powerful you will be.”

– Bruce Lee

If you limit your choices only to what seems possible or reasonable, you disconnect yourself from what you truly want, and all that is left is compromise.”

– Robert Fritz

You can only become truly accomplished at something you love. Don’t make money your goal. Instead, pursue the things you love doing.”

– Maya Angelou

You must learn to be still in the midst of activity 
and to be vibrantly alive in repose.”

– Indira Ghandi

An entrepreneur tends to bite off a little more than he can chew hoping he’ll quickly learn how to chew it.“


– Roy Ash, co-founder of Litton Industries

Friendship is the only cement that will hold the world together.”

– Woodrow Wilson

If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.”

– John Quincy Adams

Try not to become a man of success but rather to become a man of value.”

– Albert Einstein

Do not be afraid of mistakes, providing you do not make the same one twice.”

– Eleanor Roosevelt

How do you stay resilient? It’s about momentum. Like riding a bicycle. If you stop you fall over. So I keep pedaling.”

– Diane Lane

Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity.”

– Seneca

Part of your destiny is to live in the zone of maximum satisfaction.”

– Martha Beck

A great secret of success is to go through life as a man who never gets used up.”

– Albert Schweitzer

That which grows fast withers as rapidly; that which grows slowly endures.”

– J.G. Holland, novelist

I was taught at a very young age that you can do whatever you want to, but you have to make it happen — not just talk about it.”

– Kathleen Jo Ryan

Education is not the filling of a pail, but the lighting of a fire.”

– William Butler Yeats

He who knows he has enough is rich.”

– Tao Te Ching

A people who mean to be their Governors must arm themselves with the power which knowledge gives.”

– James Madison

Inspiration and genius — one and the same.”

– Victor Hugo

Don’t think. Thinking is the enemy of creativity.”

– Ray Bradbury

History is a relentless master. It has no present, only the past rushing into the future. To try to hold fast is to be swept aside.”

– John F. Kennedy

Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.”

– Anais Nin

Outside of a dog, a book is man’s best friend. Inside of a dog it’s too dark to read.”

– Groucho Marx

My job is my hobby. I come to work to play.”

– Uli Becker, president, Reebok International

If you look at what you have in life, you’ll always have more.
 If you look at what you don’t have in life, you’ll never have enough.”

– Oprah Winfrey

My goal was to tell the life side of the story. We have become a nation of voyeurs that expect sensationalism, and that offends me.”

– Kathleen Jo Ryan

Think of yourself as on the threshold of unparalleled success. A whole, clear, glorious life lies before you. Achieve! Achieve!”

– Andrew Carnegie

The good ideas are all hammered out in agony by individuals, not spewed out by groups.”

– Charles Brower, Advertising Hall of Fame

The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

– Carl Rogers

Most people never pick up the phone and call. Most people never ask, and that’s what separates the people who do things from the people who just dream about them.”

– Steve Jobs

As each woman realizes her power, she transforms the world.”

– Patrice Wynne, WomanSpirit Sourcebook

They who give have all things. They who withhold have nothing.”

– Hindu Proverb

I can’t go back to yesterday—because I was a different person then.”

– Lewis Carroll

Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid.”

– Basil King

No man will make a great leader who wants to do it all himself, or to get all the credit for doing it”

– Andrew Carnegie

As your desire is, so is your will. As your will is, so is your deed. As your deed is, so is your destiny.”

– Brihadaranyaka Upanishad

That which does not kill us makes us stronger.”

– Friedrich Nietzsche

Tolerance and patience should not be read as signs of weakness. They are signs of strength.”

– The Dalai Lama

Change is a math formula. Change happens when the cost of the status quo is greater than the risk of change.”

– Alan Webber, author, "Rules of Thumb"

Let us seize the day and the opportunity and strive for that greatness of spirit that measures life not by its disappointments but by its possibilities.”

– W.E.B. Du Bois

With ordinary talents and extraordinary perseverance, all things are attainable.”

– Sir Thomas Fowell Buxton

We need to learn to set our course by the stars, not by the lights of every passing ship.”

– General Omar Bradley

No longer talk at all about the kind of man a good man ought to be, but be such.”

– Marcus Aurelius Antoninus

You take your life in your own hands, and what happens?
 A terrible thing: no one to blame.”

– Erica Jong