By Hilary Blair
CEO and Lead Coach,
and Robin A. Miller, PhD
COO and Lead Coach
ARTiculate Real & Clear: Clear Communication Is an Art, ARTiculateRC.com
How does trusting your inner guidance system impact how you show up personally and professionally?
For 35 years, I have trusted my intuitive voice with clients and students, and it has helped guide my teaching, coaching, and how I facilitate the workshops I host. My goal is to use it to help move my clients forward in their communication in the boardroom and the office.
It hasn’t always been easy, and my guess is that the same holds true for a lot of people.
So here are two essential questions to ask:
- Are you aligned with your intuition?
- Are you listening equally to personal and professional insight?
If you are like me, I have found it easy to believe the outside voices of friends and family, even when their voices countered what my gut was telling me. For years, I allowed myself to be told that my intuitive feeling was an oversensitive reaction to things that were not exactly as I perceived them to be.
These comments made me feel my perception was slightly off. Sometimes, others’ comments and perceptions made me question if my intuition was off a full 180 degrees. The fact that I denied my own observations and awareness eroded my sense of self.
Not only was I not listening to my gut, I was fully agreeing that my gut instincts were completely wrong.
If you’ve had a similar experience, you know that trusting others’ opinions, and letting them trump your own instincts, is not a very good idea. In fact, when it happens to me now, a thumping feeling starts in my gut and triggers a big siren in my head.
If others have questioned your inner compass, and you feel that you are disappearing — or worse, disintegrating — cultivate that siren in yourself.
Sound easier said than done? Thankfully, three things that shifted simultaneously enabled me to restore my guidance system.
- I moved away from relationships that were causing me to question my own knowing.
- I moved out of a bad personal relationship.
- I moved out of a poor-fitting job and work environment, and some family matters shifted.
This trifecta enabled me to regain contact with my gut. Once I did, I realized it had been talking to me all along, I just needed to listen.
Wholeness in Communication
Last month, I was coaching a group of business people who were preparing for interviews. As I stood at the back of the room, a bubbly, energetic young woman began to share her presentation. Hardly taking a breath, she spoke about all her accomplishments and qualifications for the position.
As I watched her present, I felt something was misaligned. I didn’t know what or why. I just knew it was. I stopped her and asked if she was open to me sharing some feedback.
Before answering yes or no, she began to tell me that she knows she smiles too much. Early on, a teacher had communicated to her that she was too bubbly and needed to tone down her energy. My heart sank.
I turned to her and said, “I’m sorry that you were told this. I need you to know that my thoughts were quite the opposite. I love your enthusiasm and your beautiful smile. I would like us to practice grounding the energy so that your message can become more powerful.”
As I had done in the past, she was hearing her teacher’s critical voice internally while delivering her presentation and my intuition had recognized the misalignment.
Communicate With Confidence and Courage in the New Year
I walked away from this experience realizing that we all have outside voices that have left their imprint on our minds.
Our own intuition may have been dismissed in the past, and we have learned to trust others’ perceptions rather than exploring and following our internal compass.
In the new year, let’s realign, listening to our internal voice and communicating with confidence and courage. When we can trust our own gut and communicate this insight with compassion, our message becomes more powerful.
About Hilary Blair
CEO and lead coach for ARTiculate: Real & Clear, Hilary Blair, MFA, with physiological guidance from Jennifer Spielman, MM, MA, CCC-SLP, is an admitted breath snob.
A presentation and speaking voice expert, Blair is a highly regarded coach and facilitator working extensively across the United States with businesses that include American Express, Janus Funds, Staples, Liberty Global, and Hunter Douglas. She uses her skills and experience as a stage, film, and voice-over actor, teacher, and voice coach to help people in a variety of positions, including entrepreneurs, CEOs, writers, and project managers.
Her coaching is informed by what is unique and authentic in the individual or group. In addition, she facilitates workshops that use improvisation to improve leadership skills, team-building, and creativity. She is on the faculty of the Denver Center for the Performing Arts and has been adjunct faculty for a number of universities. An active member of Toastmasters and a board member of VASTA—the Voice and Speech Trainers Association—she holds an MFA in acting from the National Theatre Conservatory and a BA from Yale University.
About Robin A. Miller
Robin Miller is an energetic, motivational keynote speaker who has also spent more than 20 years in teaching, training, and coaching. Her specialty is in guiding the well-thought individual to become confidently well-spoken in settings such as interviews, meetings, and keynotes. Her clients include Coors, the University of Denver, and Sterisil.
She has performed vocally and conducted numerous musical groups throughout her career, as well as taught music at Baylor University, the University of North Texas, and Texas Christian University. Her expertise in navigating customer communication derives from her experience as a customer relationship manager in the financial industry, and as a development specialist in some of Denver’s leading Level 1 trauma centers, as well as her advanced training in mediation and crucial conversations. She earned an MM in music from Baylor University, a PhD in Musicology from the University of North Texas, and a MDiv from the Iliff School of Theology.
Blair and Miller acknowledge the amazing voice teachers with whom they have had the privilege of working: Chuck Jones, Rocco Dal Vera, Gary Logan, Patsy Rodenburg, Catherine Fitzmaurice, and Kristen Linklater, to name a few.
For more information, visit ARTiculate Real & Clear: Clear Communication Is an Art, at ARTiculateRC.com