By Lisa Earle McLeod
Keynote Speaker and Author
McLeod & More, Inc.
I confess—I’m a resolution maker.
I’ve found that I’m significantly more successful if I stick to just one realistic resolution. Case in point, my 2003 resolution—“I’m going all organic”—was a total bust. I was back to QuikTrip corn dogs by mid-January.
I’ve found the best resolutions, those where I reap immediate and lasting benefits, are those related to setting goals for improving my side of an important relationship.
Here are my six favorite, high-impact resolutions.
They don’t require any fancy equipment or organizing products. They’re free. Pick one, stick with it for 30 days, and you’ll find the life improvements astounding.
1. Find something to appreciate about your spouse.
Once you get a negative lens on someone, it’s hard to see his or her finer qualities. I’m sure your spouse has flaws; may be even big ones. But instead of trying to fix the things you don’t like, which rarely works, find something to appreciate about him or her. Your spouse may not change, but when you can change your own inner dialogue, you’ll experience a more satisfying relationship.
2. See the world through your boss’ eyes.
This one comes from my Dad. Early in my career, he told me, “Find out what’s important to your boss and make it your business to get it done.” Most people come to their boss with complaints. The boss’ boss gives orders and the boss’ employees typically come to the boss with obstacles. Be different. Ask your boss what his or her most important goals are and make them a top priority to help the boss achieve his or her goals. You’ll likely be the only person who does.
3. Say hello to your neighbors.
It seems small. But it elevates the way you experience your community. When you go to the mailbox or take out the trash, instead of just smiling and nodding, make a point of actually greeting your neighbors. Studies show that people who have meaningful connections with their neighbors enjoy their homes more and have a better support system in emergencies. None of us is immune to disaster. If you need help in the middle of the night, it’s easier to call your neighbors if you know them.
4. Make eye contact with your kids when they talk.
Endless monologues about middle school social lives or what happened at preschool can be, dare I say, boring. But you can turn it into a meaningful experience by giving your child your full attention. When a child, or anyone, experiences your undivided attention, the conversation steps up a notch. The speaker, even a young child, subconsciously registers the attention and the output becomes more clear and thoughtful.
5. Don’t check email when on the phone at work.
It’s tempting, and I’m certainly guilty. But if you can give people on the other end of the phone more attention, your calls will be shorter, and you’ll get more done. Even if you only improve by 25 percent, it will make a big difference, especially with direct reports.
6. If your parents are still living, call them every week.
Very few people regret being kind to their parents. There will be a time when they’re not around. They probably weren’t perfect, but they’re the only parents you’ve got. Give them a call. Ask about their childhood or ask what they had for dinner, and thank them for bringing you into the world. It will make your day and theirs.
About Lisa Earle McLeod
Business strategist Lisa Earle McLeod is an expert in sales force and leadership development. An author, consultant, syndicated columnist, media commentator, and keynote speaker, she is recognized as a thought-leader whose latest book, “The Triangle of Truth,” was named a Washington Post Top 5 Business Book for Leaders.
A bottom-line-oriented business advisor whose firm, McLeod & More, Inc. was featured in Fortune magazine, she is also a problem-solving expert whose conflict-resolution handbook was delivered to every member of the House and Senate. And she’s a leadership contributor for Forbes.com, she blogs regularly for The Huffington Post, and she has written more than 500 articles.
This high-energy keynote speaker who has rocked the house everywhere from Apple to Pfizer to The United Way is a repeat guest on “Good Morning America” and has appeared on hundreds of radio and TV shows.
McLeod’s clients range from pharmaceutical to financial services, including Ann Taylor, Capital G, West Pharmaceutical, Black & McDonald, Kimberly-Clark, CMIT, and numerous franchises and entrepreneur organizations. She is also a personal-development expert whose first book, “Forget Perfect,” was featured in The New York Times, and continues to sell a full decade after the original printing. Her essay collection, “Finding Grace When You Can’t Even Find Clean Underwear,” was featured on Oprah.com.
McLeod and her husband Bob live in Atlanta. They are the parents of two fabulous teenage daughters.